Sydney, the daughter of a good friend, graduated from college this past June, and I had the honor of attending her commencement. In the hours leading up to the ceremony, she took me aside and confided that she felt a strange mix of emotions, both exciting and terrifying. While she was proud of her accomplishments, she also felt a little depressed. She said she felt a bit like someone had just dropped her off in a scary, unfamiliar part of town at night with the message: "You're on your own from here. Good luck."
I empathized with her. Her laments sparked memories about my own graduation day, years ago. My fellow graduates and I sat facing the dais waiting for our names to be called, and I remember looking around and wondering if everyone felt as mixed up as I did. It was a breezy day and faces were veiled by blowing hair and flapping gabardine, but those I could see held expressions that were a mix of elation and trepidation. I am sure we were all wondering what life would bring in the months and years that lay ahead.
As I continued to talk to Sydney, I reassured her that the transition from college to post-college life is a big step and it's normal to feel many conflicting emotions. I know I felt pulled in many directions back when I was her age—by loyalty to the people I had come to love, by hopes and dreams, by practical obligations, and by a fear of the unknown. In my case, I didn't entirely want college to end, and I remember feeling edgy and grumpy half the time and excited and optimistic the other half.
So as Sydney, and her mom, dad, and I drove to her graduation ceremony, I shared all of the things I wish people would have said to me back when I was 22 and facing "real life." I am sharing my ideas again here, along with additional advice provided by friends and colleagues at work. I hope that this information will be helpful to other recent college grads, like Sydney. I also hope these will help all of us remember that the learning journey never ends.
My colleague, Andrea Crouch, a Content Developer at Socratic Arts, says it well: "Do more than is expected. Don't adopt a 'C is good enough for me' attitude. People who aren't successful tend to do the bare minimum and nothing more. And they are often the biggest complainers, saying things like, 'it's not my job' or 'I don't get paid enough to do that.' My mom, a longtime business owner, always told me that successful people are the ones who are willing to do what others are not. They stay at work late, they pursue opportunities others don't think are important, and they aren't afraid to roll up their sleeves and get dirty."
Following these tips will help give you a jumpstart on your post-college life and your career. Is it always going to be easy? No. But the best thing you can do is to keep marching forward bravely and do your best. While college graduation will probably be one of the memories you are most proud of, it is just a beginning; a launching point for many future opportunities and accomplishments. In the words of Zig Ziglar, American author, salesman, and motivational speaker, "Your attitude, not your aptitude, determines your altitude."